I was having a 'life' talk with one of my many offspring awhile back. Not 'the' talk, but about motivation and such. We have difficulty with motivation and initiation of anything at our house. Which definitely includes myself. I used to call myself a lazy perfectionist. (actually I still do) I like things 'so' but am too lazy to make 'so' happen. (unless I get angry.....) So somewhere I came up with this package deal thing while trying to encourage that particular offspring to pick it up a notch. And you know the more I thought about it, the more I realized that it pertained to myself too. Everything is a package deal. Life. Sports. School. Being an adult. Being a child. Everything. In every aspect of every 'deal' there is good/bad, positive/negative or however you want to look at it. There are things about every 'deal' that are NO fun to do. For instance being a child you sometimes have to do chores. Of course no child at my house likes to do any of those. But it's part of the deal being part of a family. Or playing football you have to run your butt off in the heat and go to practice during the week. It's part of the deal to play on the FB team. You have to have motivation even when the going gets tough. Or how about this thing called 'life'. We all have sufferings etc. that we go through. It's not always easy and sometimes we feel as though we got all the bad deals available. But, (that darn but always shows up ) :)
it's just part of the deal.
We don't get to sign up for which deals we get. Although we do have a choice in how we deal with them. We can harbor anger or bitterness or own laziness. Or we can accept those 'deals' willfully and KNOW that there is a God that is bigger and He is always on our side ready and willing to help us 24/7/365. (you just have to ask BTW) You have to learn to accept the bad with the good. Situations are only as good as you make them. You can host your own pity party (like I have for years) or you can find that mustard seed of faith and nurture it. You can put forth that effort or you can selfishly withhold it.
Overall the 'talk' went well with my offspring who is a lot like me. I saw some improvement with his effort and all I had to do was mention 'package deal' when there was something he didn't want to do and he'd realize that he had to do this for it was part of the 'deal'. It also has worked well for me. There are so many things that I do not enjoy doing but 'get' to do and it's made me realize that I do have choices. It doesn't pertain to doing/not doing something but with my attitude that I do it with. What 'deals' are you dealing with that could be dealt with better?